I hate when people focus so much on getting a relationship. When their main drive is to find somebody to be with, even though they’re better off just focusing on themselves for a while.
Like, okay cool, you’re in a relationship and you’re happy. Good for you! But certain people act like being in a relationship is all that matters. That’s all they search for, get depressed when they aren’t in one — even though there are more pressing matters at hand — and then when they do get into one, they don’t shut the fuck up about it.
Maybe it’s because I’ve never been in a relationship in all 21 years of my life. I have not kissed anybody. I have never been sexually active (keep in mind that me not having personal experience does not mean that I have no knowledge whatsoever on the subject. I’ve taken a course in which the entire focus was human sexuality. That and the Internet exists).
I don’t really intend on searching for a relationship. I’ve noticed that people who try too hard to find a relationship end up never getting into one. I also find that I have a lot of other things in my life that are more important right now, like friendship and getting good grades so I don’t feel like I’m wasting time and money going to a university.
Would I like to get into a relationship at some point? Sure, whatever. If it happens, it happens. Will I cry if it doesn’t? No. I’ll move on. I’ve been on both sides of the spectrum. When I was younger, I’d get depressed as all hell because I’d never been in a relationship. Hell, there are days where I wish I could have somebody to be like that with, but that doesn’t mean I’m going to sink into this horrific depression because it hasn’t happened yet. Now I’m completely indifferent, and if it happens — cool. I’m really picky anyway, so the chances of me finding somebody that I’m both physically and emotionally attracted to is going to be pretty fucking difficult. Thus far, the only person worth mentioning is a small-time actor who I will more than likely absolutely never meet.
Would I like to eventually be sexually active? Yeah, definitely. Would I cry if it doesn’t happen? No. That’s what masturbation is for, for those of us who don’t happen to get the opportunity.
Either way, I just hate it when people focus their entire lives on man-hunting or women-hunting. Stop trying so hard. It’ll happen when it happens, or it won’t. That’s just how life is. You kind ofhave to take it as it comes.